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** 20 Reasons You Don’t Have a Boyfriend **
September 28, 2009 by Susan Walsh 234 Comments
lonely womanManolith, a men’s lifestyle online magazine, recently ran the
article 20 Reasons You’re Still Single. I was delighted to learn that
there are apparently a significant number of men who want a relationship
and need advice. The piece addresses a wide range of typical male
weaknesses, including questionable hygiene, douchebaggery and being “too
One of the premises of Hooking Up Smart is that in general, men are more
interested in sexual variety than women, and therefore less interested in
committed relationships. Individual preferences fall within a spectrum, but
current relationship and cultural dynamics can be said to favor the male.
Women need to be smart and strategic if they want to secure and maintain a
Many contributing factors have created “hookup culture,” where physical
intimacy precedes emotional intimacy, which may or may not develop. While
the odds may be against committed relationships, there are some happy
couples to be seen around. Even at college, that Happy Hookup Hunting
Ground, you see couples walking hand in hand. It happens.
Is it a matter of luck? Right place, right time? Or are there women who
have a knack for bringing out the boyfriend in guys? None of us can control
luck or timing. We can present our best physical selves by taking care of
ourselves and taking pride in our appearance, but we can’t mess (much)
with the genetic hand we’ve been dealt. That’s the bad news.
The good news is that we can control our
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